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Cheating partners are hooked on the
excitement of the “secret”, so to speak.
When discovered, cheaters atone for
their wandering in varied and expensive
ways that; in their own mind, somehow
placate what they call “this natural,
human tendency”.
Cheating Pats and Rats cannot practice
monogamy and spousal commitment
they seek out excitement with another.
This is a personality-driven choice
based on being “too close” to their
beloved and wishing to capture some
tiny segment of themselves away from
the eyes of a partner who knows them
all too well. It is a return to childhood
behavior where he or she had oedipal
lust that was new and exciting for the
first time. Also, it is an unconscious
desire to return to the adolescent first
love experience which was fun, exciting
and signaled the beginning of adulthood
and adult sexuality. It was the
adolescent’s first “adult secret”.
From a less psychological point of view,
the desire to have something new and
interesting is rarely a substitute for the
kind of love and fidelity that cheaters
have with their partner. Relationship
with a partner provides stability and
home life but Cheating Pats and Rats
wish to have a “secret admirer”. They
have a strong desire to create sacred
space of their own.
When people make a conscious choice
to cheat, it is often difficult for the other
partner to understand their choice. But it
is of note that it is rarely genuine love
with an “outsider” as much as it is an
exciting secret. It is human biology and
psychology on a certain level for people
to return to their childhood fantasies at
all stages of their life. This; as
previously mentioned, is human nature.
But people can re-engage their
relationship with their primary partner in
new and interesting ways as well. It is
unhealthy to be completely committed to
one other person and to know everything
about someone else in a relationship. It
is often the delightful surprises and
humorous moments that cause the
most joy over the long term.
Examples of re-engaging primary
relationships:
1. Vacations away from their partner.
2. Interests outside of the relationship.
3. Continuing education throughout a
lifetime.
4. Art, hobbies or athletics that engage
the mind, heart and hands.
5. Holding significance for healthy,
monogamous sex and keeping it fresh
and interesting.
excitement of the “secret”, so to speak.
When discovered, cheaters atone for
their wandering in varied and expensive
ways that; in their own mind, somehow
placate what they call “this natural,
human tendency”.
Cheating Pats and Rats cannot practice
monogamy and spousal commitment
they seek out excitement with another.
This is a personality-driven choice
based on being “too close” to their
beloved and wishing to capture some
tiny segment of themselves away from
the eyes of a partner who knows them
all too well. It is a return to childhood
behavior where he or she had oedipal
lust that was new and exciting for the
first time. Also, it is an unconscious
desire to return to the adolescent first
love experience which was fun, exciting
and signaled the beginning of adulthood
and adult sexuality. It was the
adolescent’s first “adult secret”.
From a less psychological point of view,
the desire to have something new and
interesting is rarely a substitute for the
kind of love and fidelity that cheaters
have with their partner. Relationship
with a partner provides stability and
home life but Cheating Pats and Rats
wish to have a “secret admirer”. They
have a strong desire to create sacred
space of their own.
When people make a conscious choice
to cheat, it is often difficult for the other
partner to understand their choice. But it
is of note that it is rarely genuine love
with an “outsider” as much as it is an
exciting secret. It is human biology and
psychology on a certain level for people
to return to their childhood fantasies at
all stages of their life. This; as
previously mentioned, is human nature.
But people can re-engage their
relationship with their primary partner in
new and interesting ways as well. It is
unhealthy to be completely committed to
one other person and to know everything
about someone else in a relationship. It
is often the delightful surprises and
humorous moments that cause the
most joy over the long term.
Examples of re-engaging primary
relationships:
1. Vacations away from their partner.
2. Interests outside of the relationship.
3. Continuing education throughout a
lifetime.
4. Art, hobbies or athletics that engage
the mind, heart and hands.
5. Holding significance for healthy,
monogamous sex and keeping it fresh
and interesting.
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But it again of note that the partner who
is being lied to should realize that their
mate is not so much in love with
another person as they are wishing to
reclaim a portion of themselves that
they feel has been lost.
Some people seek out private sacred
space and life-long discovery inside a
relationship and others seek it outside
of a relationship because Cheating
Pats and Rats are people who are
hooked on the excitement of serial
secrets from their most committed
relationships.
At first, cheating is a fun tryst but it can
escalate to the point where the cheater
has hidden personae that their primary
partner knows nothing about. It can
become an addictive, exciting, double
life. So you see, infidelity is a slippery
slope to be sure. At first the cheater
just wants space and excitement (or so
they rationalize in their own minds).
But that excitement wears off and the
cheating partner clings or becomes
demanding. This becomes tedious so
the Cheating Pat seeks out another
who will be an easier mark or “more
fun” in their eyes to ratchet up the
excitement level.
It is unlikely that Cheating Pats and Rats
will ever change once this cycle is
begun. It is a Pandora’s Box. Cheating
is an addiction and returns a person
back to an oedipal state of first sexual
excitement that resulted in feelings of
power. Secrets and power are strong
intoxicants. So, Cheating Pats and
Rats rarely change their ways once they
have wounded their primary
relationship.
People may never “cheat” again in the
traditional sense but they will seek out
the oedipal desire to keep secrets in
order to keep a sense of power and
excitement. This is a personality flaw
that can be overcome but usually is
not. A partner of a cheater undergoes
so much duress and a breakdown of
faith and trust. The espoused goes
through tremendous soul searching to
find out “why” the behavior of someone
they trusted manifested in this way. But
it is rarely such a significant or life
altering reason as they guess.
Cheaters cheat because it is childish
misbehavior of a flawed adult who
wishes to keep a secret and
experience excitement that their
beloved does not know about. It is a
way to reclaim their personal power
over another in an infantile, oedipal
way. Unfortunately when the beloved
finds out, they always find it to be the
deepest breech of commitment, trust,
love and dishonor of a sacred trust.
is being lied to should realize that their
mate is not so much in love with
another person as they are wishing to
reclaim a portion of themselves that
they feel has been lost.
Some people seek out private sacred
space and life-long discovery inside a
relationship and others seek it outside
of a relationship because Cheating
Pats and Rats are people who are
hooked on the excitement of serial
secrets from their most committed
relationships.
At first, cheating is a fun tryst but it can
escalate to the point where the cheater
has hidden personae that their primary
partner knows nothing about. It can
become an addictive, exciting, double
life. So you see, infidelity is a slippery
slope to be sure. At first the cheater
just wants space and excitement (or so
they rationalize in their own minds).
But that excitement wears off and the
cheating partner clings or becomes
demanding. This becomes tedious so
the Cheating Pat seeks out another
who will be an easier mark or “more
fun” in their eyes to ratchet up the
excitement level.
It is unlikely that Cheating Pats and Rats
will ever change once this cycle is
begun. It is a Pandora’s Box. Cheating
is an addiction and returns a person
back to an oedipal state of first sexual
excitement that resulted in feelings of
power. Secrets and power are strong
intoxicants. So, Cheating Pats and
Rats rarely change their ways once they
have wounded their primary
relationship.
People may never “cheat” again in the
traditional sense but they will seek out
the oedipal desire to keep secrets in
order to keep a sense of power and
excitement. This is a personality flaw
that can be overcome but usually is
not. A partner of a cheater undergoes
so much duress and a breakdown of
faith and trust. The espoused goes
through tremendous soul searching to
find out “why” the behavior of someone
they trusted manifested in this way. But
it is rarely such a significant or life
altering reason as they guess.
Cheaters cheat because it is childish
misbehavior of a flawed adult who
wishes to keep a secret and
experience excitement that their
beloved does not know about. It is a
way to reclaim their personal power
over another in an infantile, oedipal
way. Unfortunately when the beloved
finds out, they always find it to be the
deepest breech of commitment, trust,
love and dishonor of a sacred trust.
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